I want to befriend my husband's ex-wife, but she ignores me

 

My husband already had one marriage before me. They have lived together for many years. Because of what they got divorced, I don't know. The husband evasively replies that he no longer remembers. It so happened that I work in the same place where she once worked. Also in the same position. She was an activist, she always came up with something, was cheerful, active, organized holidays and so on. In general, it forever entered the history of the company. I often come across documents in which she appears, photos, articles. Although almost 10 years have passed. At first I was just curious. We are somewhat similar to her, both in appearance and in character. This is what my colleagues say. Maybe I could even make friends with her. Then, I became even more interested. It was strange to me that none of his relatives had photos of her. Not from family holidays, not from a wedding. Only later did I find out that she walked around everyone and took all the photos where she was. I started rummaging through the archives, his parents' computer, looking for hidden files. Of course, with their permission. And I found it. I found correspondence, photos from the wedding, photos before her. I kept everything to myself. I do not know why. And she couldn't stop even further. I found old postcards with confessions, newspaper articles, letters from his parents. I am very interested in what she was. What they talked about, how they lived. I can not stop. I dug everything out on the Internet from open data, found services that download photos even from closed social media. networks. They monitor the groups to which she is subscribed, show that she liked. Judging by these posts, she is unhappy and lonely. Although there is a large family and their own children. I want to write to her, talk to her. I tried, added, but immediately without explanation was blacklisted. I don’t understand why I’m so mad. You can't get a word out of your husband. He says that he doesn't remember anything and that's it. And now I can say that I know so much about this woman that he will be shocked. We often walk where she lives. And sometimes I see her. She and my husband do not notice each other, but I look, trying to consider all the changes. New clothes, hair color, and so on. Now we want to buy an apartment in that area. The area is nice and not expensive. But I am afraid that we will collide more often. I don't know where this will lead. I'm not crazy and I won't stalk her, I'm just interested in her life. I don't even like her, I just can't stop. And if I could, I would put a bug in her apartment in order to at least feel connected to her life. I don’t know how to stop thinking about it and get hung up like that.