Mother disinherited me in favor of my sister

 

He grew up in the family of an alcoholic father, a hysterical mother and a selfish younger sister. Since the beginning of the 90s, my father came late, often at night, drunk. Instead of putting him to bed, his mother simply went out to him and began to shout at him inadequately, insulting him. One could not tolerate such a life further and divorce (we have a large three-room apartment, it could be exchanged painlessly during a divorce). I woke up screaming, sometimes it turned into fights with my father (if you didn't touch him, he would never say a word, he would just drink tea, smoke and fall asleep, but the mother could not let him go to sleep without a loud conflict). And so it was for about 15 years. Most days of the year - late in the evening or at night, when everyone is asleep, he comes in drunk, his mother screams hysterically at him. I wake up, then it was harder and harder to fall asleep. Because of this, I suffer from insomnia and for 25 years now I have not slept at night. The younger sister, unlike me, slept soundly, did not interfere in anything. My father was irritable, from childhood he suppressed, humiliated, insulted, often beat me, including for nothing. He loved his father all the same in childhood and for half his life forgave him no matter what. Renounced him only 15 years ago, when he rushed to me to fight, after I once again stood up for my mother. My relationship with my mother was always good, I loved her very much. But from childhood she loved to humiliate me, constantly saying: “You don’t think with your head at all, you don’t think at all, are you stupid with us, or what?”. Although in reality she is herself an uneducated and uncivilized woman, very dependent on other people's opinions. “What will people say” is her motto for life. And, by the way, I have two university degrees, including a red diploma. In 2006, the father died and the mother was replaced. She does not know how to live normally, conflicts are her element, and her alcoholic husband no longer exists. Therefore, she began to spread rot on me for any reason. Just a little something, immediately shout, insult. I loved her anyway, in general, the relationship was good. My sister grew up super selfish. For example, when they bring her from kindergarten (her father either worked in shifts or drank, her mother came home late from work, so I often took her out of the kindergarten). She was 6-7 years old, I was 12-13. I bring her home, there is little food, for example, some pasta and 2 eggs. She had an afternoon snack in the kindergarten, I didn't eat for half a day after school. I warm the pasta, fry these eggs, take out 2 plates to divide in half, and she throws a tantrum, her catchphrase: "If you divide it in half, then you won't eat too, and I'll just tease my appetite, you'd better put it all on me alone." And if at that very moment my mother came from work or a sober father, they really took food from me and dumped everything to her, and they fed me later, when my mother cooked something. My sister always has the TV remote control. If I once a month demand to switch to a good movie that I want to watch, and select the remote control for this, she would throw a tantrum, run after her mother, who gave the remote control back to her. My mother’s motto was not pedagogical: “You are the elder, so you must give in”. The father died in 2006, and in 2007 the sister brought home the groom, the apartment gigolo, in 2008 she married him. Since that time, they have occupied the largest room, in fact, they have taken over half of the apartment, which makes it impossible for me to live with my family in this apartment. Moreover, the sister is mega-selfish. While I was living alone, she said, they say, do not boil the kettle late, it prevents me from falling asleep, do not burn incense, I do not like the smell. I had nowhere to live with my fiancée, but it is impossible to live in this apartment in a smaller room and with my sister's family (she already had a daughter). Therefore, since 2013 he rented an apartment. By the way, in my parents' apartment I owned 1/3 of the share, and if I weren't there, the state would have given my mother only a two-room apartment in due time. Actually, she gave birth to her mother and sister for the sake of a three-room apartment. Both from a legal and an everyday point of view, my sister and her husband, who love our apartment so much, had to give me the cost of my share. After all, theoretically, I could sell it even to realtors, even to gypsies, who would arrange a cheerful life for them or forced to sell their shares for a penny (it is two-story, even though the house was built in 1988, then it was the only one in the city, experimental, and for ordinary of people). But the sister and her husband suddenly take out a “free mortgage” and get a one-room apartment in a new house, free. They immediately began to rent it, and with this money they pay off the mortgage.

In general, they will get this apartment practically for nothing. I got married, I had a child, all this in a rented apartment. When the bride and I got together to live together, he suggested to his sister, they say, you live here in the largest room, you also took an apartment for yourself, I have nowhere to live, let me live in your mortgage, I will pay you a small amount for this (in proportion to my share in the apartment, captured by her sister and her husband). She refused: "we will rent it as expensive as possible and pay off the mortgage with these payments." Mother is completely against me, she says: "We will not allocate anything to you, then we will select it." I was making good money then, saving up, but the 2015 crisis happened and the business collapsed. I earn my living, but the rent payments have become onerous. The cost of my share was allocated to me after 7 years, but not an egoist sister with her gigolo husband, it was my parents who chipped in and gave my sister such a gift. My share was accordingly copied to the sister's husband. For 7 years (not Moscow) I paid 1 million rubles for rented apartments. To buy my "average" apartment, not small and not large, not in a new house, but not in Khrushchev, I just did not have enough of this million. So for the first time in my life I took a forced loan, got into a mortgage, overpayment for interest another million, the mortgage like a snowball added new debts and loans. In fact, my million spent on rented apartments and getting into a mortgage is payment for the comfort of my sister and her family. This is her selfish worldview, as in childhood, they say, there is no need to divide food in half, I'd rather eat everything alone, only now it's a housing issue. The sister and her husband have their whole lives at someone else's expense (they can't even earn money for a car, their parents just give them money). I worked 12 hours a day to support my family normally and pay for rented apartments. I earned and saved up for a very good car. There was still not enough money for an apartment. In order not to get into a mortgage, I expected that as soon as the share was allocated, I would sell the car, buy it cheaper and buy an apartment without a mortgage. But the 2015 crisis turned everything upside down. And by the way, my mother has a dacha where I helped my parents from childhood, and for 15 years I took my mother to her almost every day. Yes, I just burned so much gas that you could buy the same dacha. And suddenly I find out that the rest of my mother's share in the apartment (1/3 of my sister, 1/3 of mine, which, in fact, was given to my sister by my parents, our mother and her husband's mother bought it from me after 7 years of living in rented apartments and 1 / 3 share of the mother, which in the future should go to my sister and me in half), presented by the mother to the sister! And the dacha has already been copied to my sister! Although she only appears there once a year for a birthday meal, she never helped her parents there. Now my sister has everything, but I have 7 years of losses in rented apartments and only because of this I got into a mortgage. And during her lifetime, her mother gave her all her inheritance. This means that when my mortgage ends, I will have to take a new one to help the child. While the sister and her daughter are provided with apartments for life. At the same time, the mother loves her granddaughter (sister's daughter) so that she is ready to faint. I constantly took her to kindergarten, now to school, circles. He gives all of himself to her (and helps her sister, tidies up, strokes, cooks). And my grandson, my child, may not see for months. During the summer she goes to the dacha every day (except for the days when she has to sit with her granddaughter), she never came to her grandson. Somehow I refused to sit with him only because of his cold, with the words: "What if I will infect Mashenka (granddaughter) from him through myself." And after 2 weeks she called me and said: “my sister has bilateral pneumonia, take her, bring her to the hospital”. That is, proceeding from this logic, if a sister has an infection, then the grandson is indifferent, and you can infect! When they moved from one apartment to another rented apartment, and the sister's husband helped to carry things, the mother called at 11 pm and shouted that he had to get up early for work, he would not get enough sleep. And she once told me, when, during the period of self-isolation, the child interfered with work (she never sat with him), they say, and you sleep for 5 hours to work more. I suspect she subconsciously hates me. She was unlucky with her father (my grandfather, he loved to drink and brawl), with her alcoholic husband, and apparently decided to take revenge for them. I am a man born of a hated husband, but my daughter is beloved by default, and my son-in-law is beloved, his daughter chose him, and the granddaughter is beloved, she was born from her own daughter, and not from the wife of her son.

As a child, my mother said: "You and your sister should always help each other, when my father and I are gone, you will be the dearest people to each other." As a result, my sister and her husband seized the apartment, my mother completely deprived of her inheritance during her lifetime. My sister and her husband, earning little, live their whole lives at someone else's expense, they are provided with apartments forever, and my family and I spent the last 7 years of my youth in rented apartments. Now I will pay a mortgage until old age and survive (the crisis and the coronavirus have greatly lowered income). And all this is only because of the selfishness of the mother, sister and her husband. Now I practically don't communicate with them, sometimes I call my mother, but it's hard to talk, and I think I no longer have my sisters. If we had allocated a share in a timely manner, now I would live with my family in the same apartment without mortgages and debts. Now this resentment is always with me, it is impossible to let it go. If I was immediately allocated a share, and at the same time deprived of my inheritance, I would accept it. I am a man, unlike my sister and her husband, more or less earn money and can only live at my own expense. But why, because of them, I spent a million on rent, having my share in a large apartment, which was seized by relatives! If someone has the same situation, but at the initial stage - do not repeat my mistakes, immediately offer to the egoist sisters or brothers, either to buy out your share, or to sell yours to realtors or gypsies. By the way, I don't smoke, I don't drink (never at all, even champagne for New Year). I have two higher educations, never shook my mother's nerves. So why did she destroy me and my grandson financially? But she doesn't understand this.