A friend accused me of being greedy

 

I knew my best friend from the very kindergarten. After that there was a school, one institute. We've always been together. She is very sociable, she has many friends and acquaintances. I was jealous of her, it was a shame when you invite her to her birthday, but someone invited her earlier, and she goes to him. I am rather reserved, shy, modest. In companies I felt like a black sheep, and only with her was it easy and fun for me. We didn't spend much time together, but when we saw her, she was literally my outlet. I was distracted from bad thoughts and, no matter what happened, she could always cheer me up. She is not one of those people who can give advice and support, so I rarely complained to her, just enjoyed communication on abstract topics or shared events from my life. I accepted her for who she is, and did not ask for more. Although at times, I really lacked support, for example, when my grandmother died, or my long-term relationship broke down. She just patted me sympathetically on the shoulder, and I tried to pretend that everything was not so bad. I had other acquaintances, but no one was as close as she. When we both got married and began to live in different parts of the city, we saw each other and called up even less often. Work, home, routine. But for all the holidays we got together: me, my husband, she, her husband and another friend of hers with her husband. Over the years, I began to notice that under the influence of her husband, she changes a lot. In particular, her attitude towards money is changing. She became tight-fisted, began to count every penny. She recalled that I owed her a ruble for the last time in the store, when I had no change, and so on. I didn't say anything, I just gave it away. My husband and I lived much more modestly. We did not have our own housing, cars, like theirs, but I was silent. Recently, at a common holiday, I lost my nerves. We all went to the store together and bought groceries. We saved all the checks and decided to split them in half. In the store, a friend chose expensive alcohol. I told her right there that my husband and I do not drink, and we will not pay for it, to which she grimaced and said nothing. At their house, I transferred money to the card, with the exception of this alcohol, and a scandal immediately broke out, supposedly we should pay, because we celebrate in their house, fry meat on their grill and steam in their bath. That means they have to pay for everything. And this despite the fact that her husband helped to heat the bathhouse, and her friend's husband came to everything ready, behaved like a master. He did not help anyone, but without asking anyone he went to the bathhouse first, behaved cheekily, for some reason it was normal. We began to resent, word for word. As a result, I got angry, and my husband and I decided to leave. In the wake of us flew in from the husband of my friend: "you will leave now, and then ask us for money at the table." We had never done this before, and such a statement was unpleasant to me. We left. Two years have passed since then. We still don't communicate. A friend doesn’t even try to get in touch, and I don’t understand what I was to blame or not right? She doesn't need me. She's fine without me. I'm alone. And I no longer want to be friends with anyone and get closer. Because, as life has shown, friendship is almost always a one-sided game. My best friend is my husband. He replaces everyone for me. But still, I cannot share many things with him. Therefore, I miss my girlfriend, although I understand that she exchanged me for money.