My husband made repairs to my girlfriend, but she did not even thank him

 

A friend started a renovation a few months ago. Money end-to-end, but, nevertheless, hired a designer and did everything according to the design project. My husband has his own team, he promised that he would help her. She lives alone. No husband or boyfriend. I was all for it. As a result, she paid for everything - furniture, building materials and so on. She also paid for the work of builders, the husband had nothing with this money. It turned out that she worked until late at night and for 3 months never came to see how the repairs were progressing. Every day her husband went to her apartment, supervised the workers, consulted with the painters on how best to paint the walls and other work. My friend and I have a good relationship. I never noticed her in pettiness. It turned out that she spent much more on repairs than she had planned. The problem is that in the end she simply said thank you to her husband. 3 months have passed since the end of the repair. I thought she would at least congratulate him on the New Year and express some gratitude. The husband is perplexed. He says that such work costs no less than 200 thousand. I think that she will offer at least a quarter, or make a substantial gift. By the way, we still haven't seen an invitation to a housewarming party. There were huge holidays though. I don't know how to give her a hint. In general, it seems to me that she does not even know that she needs to somehow thank her. Although she, of course, also helped us. For example, she added a child to the kindergarten, since a position in government agencies allows. But one call is incommensurable with three months of daily monitoring of repairs in an apartment! I understand that my husband decided to help himself, but he did not think that all the work, from choosing sockets to meeting with painters and workers, would be on him, and that she would never come there. After the repair was completed, she still called her husband and asked what was here and what was there, she said ok and that was all. She did not celebrate her birthday. New year went to my parents. I have not personally seen her for six months. Although we used to communicate every day. Maybe she is uncomfortable that it happened, or maybe she doesn't even think that she is wrong in something. I believe that any work should be paid, even if it is out of friendship. Or she simply thanked her with a good gift. Tell me how to proceed. I want to write her a message, where I will put everything on the shelves, what and how. But I'm afraid that we will stop communicating because of the money. By the way, the situation with money is not critical for her. Recently I wrote that I wanted to buy a new fur coat and regretted the money. I don’t want to think that she was just using her husband. It seems that she simply does not understand that she should be thanked. I don't know if she should even talk about it. It's one thing to help out on friendship to come and check it a couple of times, it's another thing to spend time on this every day. I'm sorry for my husband. She consulted on this issue with several acquaintances, everyone says that she is wrong. But I don't want to ruin the relationship. At the same time, I understand what kind of husband is more offensive, he is not a volunteer. One friend suggested that she was uncomfortable, but she deliberately delayed the moment further, that she was further uncomfortable. Although then why should I talk about a fur coat. Maybe call, write or draw conclusions and leave everything as it is?